Phone Sex, Tease and Denial, and Cheating

Call Mistress Charlotte for Tease and Denial Phone SexMy recent tease and denial blog sparked a little conversation on Twitter, and I thought it would be fun to use this post to spark some interesting discussion.  A sissy follower of mine mentioned that he thought in-person tease and denial was the best because the submissive cannot cheat.

While I agree that face-to-face tease and denial is a thing of beauty, it made me wonder if it really cut down on the amount of “cheating” that goes on.  Now, just to be clear, I’m interpreting “cheating” to mean ejaculating without permission while Mistress has her back turned.  Does phone sex domination increase incidents of cheating?

Even a Mistress has to sleep eventually. . . .

Why couldn’t a physically present slave cheat?  There’s time during the day, almost every single day, when most any slave has privacy long enough to masturbate if he wants to, and his Mistress would never find out.

Suppose I were the type of Mistress to keep an eye on her slave 24 hours a day (I’m not).  Even so, I’d have to sleep at some point, and even if I did so with my slave cuffed next to me, there’s always the possibility he’ll find something to rub against until he achieves “satisfaction.”

What about a chastity device?

Even this won’t prevent someone who is determined to “cheat” from doing so.  I’ve seen it myself on a Skype call with a client.  He demonstrated to me how he could achieve orgasm, even while locked up in his CB-6000s chastity tube.

So how do you stop a far away slave from cheating?

Honestly, the same way you stop the one under your nose from cheating.  As a Mistress, I take great pleasure in seducing control and self-sovereignty away from submissive men, and convincing them to give their power to me entirely.

For me, it isn’t particularly amusing, enticing, or arousing to literally force someone to never be able to masturbate to completion, by keeping them under my eye day and night, no matter what, with no trust and temptation ever coming into play.

In other words, I want you committed to your denial because you are hopelessly loyal to me, not because it’s physically impossible to come.

Slaves and other Mistresses, what are your thoughts?

No two people have the same take on anything, obviously.  What do you think?  Is it harder not to “cheat” when you know your Mistress is geographically distant?  I’d love to find out what you think, so hit the reply button.

5 thoughts on “Phone Sex, Tease and Denial, and Cheating

  1. I think the main point is what is to be achieved by cheating and who are you cheating?
    I’ve gone through periods if denial of 2 to 3 weeks. Now personally I’d classify that as a long period especially if your constantly in a state of excitement. The aching balls standing as a further reminder of the situation.

    I’ve never worn a chastity device. I personally believe that a subs willpower should be enough. Yes we can cheat, get a bit overexcited and ejaculate when it’s not been allowed but it’s ourselves we are cheating. We lose out on the feeling of being controlled and all the emotions that come with it x

    • I totally agree: When you cheat, you’re only cheating yourself.

      I totally understand that, from time to time, a man might not be able to overcome the temptation, and mistakes happen. Naturally, there’s punishment for that, but for the most part, I think submissives do a really good job following instruction and behaving themselves. And the reward is in the servitude.

  2. You can never stop him from cheating with absolute certainty, but you sure can make it hard. I believe that the chastity device is just the first layer of defense. As long as it’s on he’s not going to have a satisying orgasm. Now how do you keep it on? Adding layer upon layer of teasing, seduction, desire and mind warping. A skilled domme can make the boy feel enslaved to her to the point that he won’t have the willpower for a serious escape attempt. A little blackmail doesn’t hurt either.

  3. I’ve never experienced this for more than a weekend before, I know I was pretty desperate by the end of it.

    As for cheating, well there are always going to be people in all walks of life who cheat, unfortunately i’m guessing it crosses over to the Mistress/Slave world although I agree with the other posters, surely you are really only cheating yourself. I’m intrigued about having my noncock controlled, I don’t seem to be able to control it! Surely if you want to serve, you follow orders, i’m more wondering whether touching is cheating, or is it just orgasming/ejaculating? It seems way more embarrassing to me to be ordered to stroke more when alone, but then not cum. Like I say I suppose i’m a novice in this area, just my ideas on it!

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